The hair on my chinny chin chin
This morning was surprisingly lovely, so I took my cereal and tea outside. As I stepped into the sunshine I felt the cool breeze through my hair; the hair on my chin and lip that is.
How did it come to this? I don’t remember leaving my twenties, let alone entering my thirties, but here I am at 45 with a hairy face. That’s not the whole story either, I have grey hair on my head and a scrawny neck reminiscent of a cockerel’s thingy, (no, not that thingy). I have skin which stays where it’s pushed and doesn’t anymore bounce back like a pea off a drum. My skeleton no longer allows me to make certain movements and I have muscles which resent being used for anything other than a slow walk from the kitchen to a well upholstered chair. And I never, ever, try a quick darting run these days - I’ll wet my pants.
The hair thing though is the straw to break my aching back. It may have been hip for Frida Kahlo to have a fine dark moustache, but she was arty and interesting, she could paint. You can’t pull off a lady moustache if you aren’t cool. Not if you have to do the school run with other mums who are immaculately dressed and well groomed, then, go to your office, where in the canteen you ‘shoot the breeze’ with young people who see your hairy face but don’t mention it. At least when I am with other 40 Somethings it’s out there, our shared open secret.
What’s terrifying is that I have very clear memories from my teenage years, of my own Mother standing in front of a mirror with a pair of tweezers, plucking individual hairs from her chin and lip. This is one of those things you do not want to see a parent do, it is on ‘the list’. This is a long list which includes: parent trying to climb into underwear, parents having sex, parent drunk, parent dancing, parent having a bath, parent being anywhere near when you are with friends/boyfriend. I promised myself then never to put my children through such nightmares, and I vowed never to have hair on my face, but I was young and foolish, I didn’t understand.
As for the hair, I have tried and failed with cover up and cream and powder of various types, I’m allergic to it all, so I have large swellings on my face as well as the hair. There are other options of course, you can wax or dye it. I tend to avoid this because of my allergic skin, but I was tempted recently when my friend Red gave me a free sample of bleachy-dye stuff. Before I could set about my face though, she rang to tell me to stop, because she had developed an unpleasant five o’ clock shadow soon after using it. You can go for the laser treatment, but I’m just plain scared of that, or you could try the Asian woman in town. She sets about you with some very taught string gripped between some seriously strong teeth and sure hands; she then grates away at your face. This looks like something I could withstand, but it’s in a public place, bang slap in the middle of the indoor shopping Mall. Now, you can be as sure as the hair of my chinny chin chin that every person in this small town, with whom I have ever passed the time of day, will walk right past me mid de-hairing – and they will know!
I think that generally I am coping, though not accepting, the negative trend in which my body is engaged. I wear scarves around my tired neck, I dye my hair so often that I really don’t know how grey I actually am. I try to help the small amount of skin I allow to be visible by drinking lots of water (well it works for Madonna), and my movements at all times are carefully managed. In everything I do I am deliberate and with everything I proceed with caution. But, short of wearing a mask I am not sure what to do with the hairy face. Mind you, I did spot a pair of tweezers in the first aid box in the bathroom yesterday; maybe I’ll try just one or two hairs tonight, whilst nobody is looking.